“When it comes to love, you need not fall but rather surrender,surrender to the idea that you must love yourself before you can love another. You must absolutely trust yourself before you can absolutely trust another and most importantly you must accept your flaws before you can accept the flaws of another.“
1. Don't give up the newness of your relationship.
As relationships mature, couples tend to forget that they are men and women first, and spouses/significant others second. Effort is required to keep things fresh. Never lose sight of the fact that as a relationship grows, you are left with a friendship... so start and stay friends as well as lovers.
So often, people try to mold/change their significant others into what they wish/want them to be. That approach is destined for failure. You can't change anyone... they have to want to change and grow themselves. You can only control how you act you can only control how you act/react to any issues that they present. If you know you can't tolerate your partner, then don't go into the relationship with the mindset of changing Him/Her, cause in the cause of changing Him/Her, you will hurt your feelings.
3. Make sure they earn your respect and long-term love.
Far too often, once the courtship phase concludes, men drop back from putting in as much effort... and women allow it. To counter this, men need to keep their effort level high... and women need to not allow a man's halfway effort to serve as acceptable.
4. Keep your strength, your individuality, and your self-esteem up-front-and-center.
A relationship is made up of two people, and those people have their own wants and needs—both inside and outside of the relationship. It's critical to keep their own interests and wants top-of-mind. Compromise might be good in a relationship, but not when you compromise who you are and/or what you really want out of your life.
5. Don't settle for second-best.
If the other person in your relationship refuses to grow with you or address what you both need, don't settle. Life is far too short. You should be with someone that enjoys you and treats you as a treasure, not as an obligation or duty. "Relationship/Marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not to be Endured"
For those that are single out there, My piece of Advice is Don't be in a hurry, cause those who rush into relationships/marriages rush out too. and for the committed one, please adhere to the tips here and also learn how to Communicate more with your partner. Cause Communication is the Key.
Your patience will pay off one day.
Source:Yourtango
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